Things you’re doing wrong in bondage!

Many of us are curious about the elusive world of BDSM and a few of us have even dabbled in it lightly. However, like all things, there is always more to learn. BDSM isn’t simply about putting on sexy lingerie or leather accessories, in this segment we will be looking at a few things you are possibly doing wrong and why.

So, before you make your way to buy erotic lingerie in Canada here are a few important points.

To top this list is consent, or to be clearer the lack of it. There is a popular misconception that consent is not needed in the BDSM community the popular quote “No means yes, and yes means more,” comes to mind. While this can be true in a literal sense, consent should never be left out. That’s is why it is always important to establish safe words or phrases before anything begins, it is also important to note that these words and phrases are not embellishments or fun slangs, they are to be taken seriously, and obeyed at all times.

You need leather lingerie, while provocative lingerie can certainly sell a look or theme, it is okay to not be comfortable in them just yet, or even ever. BDSM does not rely on the material of your lingerie to be executed. Simple bodysuit lingerie, teddies, or babydolls can all be used.

Degrading Language. Degrading language might be just the speed for some, but not for all. Within this, it is also important to note what sort of language your partner is comfortable with before proceeding. Consent is not only limited to sexual components but also verbal actions.

Roles and Facts. Fetishes are okay and not to be mocked, however, it is important as always to seek consent from your partner before taking on a certain role or assuming a role for them. People are not always comfortable with certain things. It is also important to note were role play and factual degradation cross; A huge red flag is race play, as it is often just based on real prejudice, which is never okay.

Ignoring your partner. There is a common myth that in line with following the roles of master and sub that subs should be ignored as a form of discipline. While anything is okay as long as both partners have established a safe understanding ignoring the wishes of your partner is not only insulting but a great turn off. Make sure there is a clear communication path so as not to mix up what is role play and what is a genuine concern.

No comfort. Like anything in life, you should be doing what brings you joy. There is certainly an aspect of pleasure in pain or thrill of danger attached to BDSM. However, both parties involved must have a foundation of trust and understanding, nothing should be done to, or with you that you are not completely comfortable with.

Now that the basics are covered, feel free to buy lingerie in Canada stores or buy lingerie online in Canada next time you are looking to explore!

And don’t forget to treat yourself with a piece of Erotic Lingerie or Elegant Lingerie coupled with a body harness fashion lingerie or body chain fashion lingerie!

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